In this journey we call life, we learn quickly to adapt, to shrink ourselves to fit in. A shape shifter of sorts trying to be accepted. It can be a useful tool but also detrimental to us without us even realising it.
Every time you allow someone to hurt you or to try change you and the words "its ok" comes out of your mouth. Another piece of your soul is destroyed. If we dont express how we feel, and explain its not ok, that we feel used or betrayed or simply ignored or unnoticed we lose another piece of ourselves, until how many pieces of us are left?
Dont lose sight of yourself..
As time goes on we become immune to that feeling of disappointment from the people around us when they hurt or let us down. Then the words quickly becomes "they cant help it" then onto " I don't really matter" its a chain reaction starting in you, that the hurt you allow becomes more and more acceptable ... A learned behaviour... The norm!!
You see its not ok!! because you do matter. Every thought feeling and emotion you have matters, because they are yours, they are valid and you... yourself.. yes you!!! Do matter..
The fact that you made it into this world is a miracle, you above all the other stars in the sky made it to the you now in your skin.. You are so beautiful, unique, so very special and you have something to offer, something to give and something worth listening too... so make them not just hear but listen...
Im so blessed to have people in my life, who see me truly and love me just the way I am. I dont have to be anything or anyone else but me and thats ok and im so grateful for that and will never ever take that for granted...
Those people that have hurt you in the past should of been proud to be around you, to share their lives with you. They should of seen your sparkle and appreciated it. If they cannot see how wonderful you are, then the reality and the ultimate truth of it is "they don't really matter" ......