I want to assist my daughter, Jade, properly.... over a year ago she told me about a couple occations where she had seen ghosts. Once in my parents home she saw a young boy playing in the living room but she realized my father didnt see him, then the little boy looked at her and disappeared.
She also told me she saw her great grandmother in her Fathers house during a visit shortly after he moved in (which belonged previously to his grandparents). Recently she told me see saw several ghost cats in her fathers kitchen.
While Jade has always had a wonderful imagination she never lies and I absolutely believe her. When she discussed these instances I kept an open mind and incoraged her to talk about it (she was very non challant about it at first) ... Several members of my family (from both Mothers and Fathers sides) have had many "psychic" instances over the years including both great grandmothers and my other children.
Now that she is comfortable in talking with me she has been seeing more entities EVERYWHERE. She said she is not frightened of them - until they look at her.
Luckily she feels safe in our home and has never seen an entity here (I burn sage often and have meditated over my home since moving in 5 years ago). I do not feel any presence here except maybe the occational family memeber doing a quick looky loo.
I want to help her always feel safe but since I do not see what she does and I am not sure how to help her in the best way possible. I have a few ideas but because I want ensure I do this the proper way (I want her to have a normal childhood ... if that is such a thing) and I do not ever want to misguide her or give her misinformation!
Any advice will be greatly appreciated!
I would suggest perceptivechildren.org. there are a few articles and things there such as this http://www.perceptivechildren.org/children-and-teen-spirit-contact/ ... I would say read all you can about how others have handled teaching kids to accept their gifts, control the gifts, and help them as much as you can to not feel "different" and "weird". What works for one parent, may not work for all. So find many sources, and use your best judgement on how to develop a program or a teaching style for your child. The part about not being frightened until they look at her, would be my focus, if she is accepting the fact that she can see them. Why does that frighten her?.. the way they look? the fact that they are "interacting" with her? Never be afraid to ask questions, the more you understand about what she is seeing/feeling, the better.
"Parents should, as with any psychic abilities or experiences their child tells them about, treat the information of spirit contact matter-of-factly. They should not get overly excited or upset with their child. Just listen and hear what your child has to say. To help in understanding your own or your child’s psychic experiences, keep a journal of the experiences. It will help you record the progression of experiences and ways that information comes to you as you look for patterns." - Athena Drewes
I am sure others will have much better suggestions than I, but figured a little reading wouldn't hurt until you find an answer.
You could also check out Chip Coffey's "Psychic Kids" show. There is are many who like Chip Coffey, and many who don't. I would say even if you don't like him, watch the shows, and see how they help these kids with all the different issues.
Best wishes to you and your daughter.
Thank you so very much! I am perusing the link you have suggested and have booked marked it with my personal links. I read the helpful books on how to behave so your children will, this website is exactly up my alley :-D
Thank you Iglo - I feel what you mean :-D I can't wait to ask her when she brings it up again!!!
I have always felt "protected" myself - it is my own fear that prevents me from really developing... maybe that is why I wanted to be able to help Jade feel safe (projecting my own fears and feelings into her experience).
She is so amazing, she told me that she will not discuss this with most adults (as if she knew that it was not something "norm" as unfortunate as that may be).
She has recently gone from being an in your face individual to being very shy (almost painfully) and someone made me realize that since she is shy in this world that most likely that when the spirits of the other realm look at her it is her shyness kicking in (rather than a fear).
It has been my desire to give my children the tools to make their own intelligent deductions in life rather than make them lambs that follow mindlesslessly (while giving them the pricipals of christanity at a young age I have also introduced them to the ideals of other religons and mind sets and have openly discussed all their questions - nothing wrong with questioning if something seems amiss) if you understand....
I am still learning and love learning WITH them ;-D
Love, light and blessings ~
I read your post and I sent you this link http://www.aetv.com/psychic-kids/ Its a show that is on A&E its called...... "Psychic Kids -Children of the paranormal". It deals with the same issues that you and your daughter are dealing with.... kids who are having paranormal experiences and dont know how to deal with it all. The parents also have problems understanding how they can help their kids cope with having all these unsual experiences. The show has many good episodes and some of the psychic children are very young. All the questions that you have are the same questions many of the parents had on the show. I hope this helps a bit :)
Wishing you & your daughter the best,
Oh my gosh - that makes so much sense! THANK YOU! I have felt things and seen things and meditated on it (my dream is to give messages to the living about those who have passed) but when it comes to "seeing" I freak myself out and SHUT DOWN. She is very sensitive....
You have given me a new (wonderful) perspective - thank you SO very much Marcel!
Your daughter's gift is one that many children have when they are very young, but for some reason slowly fades as they age. Some children are disturbed by it while others are not. The first thing I feel you should tell her is that there is nothing strange about being able to see spirits and ghosts. Most everyone sees them when they are very young. She is special because her gift has not faded away. For some reason, she is meant to have that gift even now.
Tell her not to be afraid. She, like every human being, has a guardian who chose to be her guardian. Being afraid only gives power to others. We have no reason to be afraid because we are powerful beings in and of ourselves, and we also have guardians who love and protect us.
Anytime a ghost or spirit speaks to her, she should be respectful, and always come to you to talk about it. You are wonderful to be open-minded about this.